Sexual Assault Awareness

April is Sexual Assault Awareness month. This is a topic that has impacted all of us. Whether it be your personal story, a family member, or a friend… you know someone that has been impacted by sexual violence.

Close to half of all women and over one in six men report experiencing sexual violence at some point in their lives (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). This is just what is being reported.

If you or someone you know is struggling to process a sexual trauma, please reach out for support. I’m here to help you work through what you’re experiencing or connect you with additional resources. You are not alone. Your story matters.

I believe you.

A close friend of mine wrote a powerful poem regarding their experience with sexual assault. Perhaps you might find your story in the words below.


Questions without answers by Megan Manning

“How are you?”

Such a simple question.

Or is it?

I want to answer,

“It’s complicated.”

I want to say,

“Good. And also

very,

VERY

bad.”

But they don’t want honest answers.

They want to hear “Good,”

“Fine”

and go on with their day.


But

if we’re being honest-

(we’re not)

How could we be good?

How could we be good

when our world

is crumbling down around us?

The systems we believed kept us safe

disappeared.

No.

Worse.


They still exist

with more power than we ever realized.

Just… not for us.


No, not for us.

For them.

The rich.

The powerful.

The men.

Not the victims:

The women.

The children.

The babies.

Who cry out,

who scream out

over

and over

and over

and

over.

They hear us.

Oh, they hear us!

They just don’t care.

Not them:

The rich.

The powerful.

The men.


And when they stop caring

what are we left with?

More men.

Men who learn they’re not held accountable

for their vile actions.

They can’t be punished.

Because-

“Those are false allegations”

“Twisted testimonies”

“The women

are lying.”

“The children

are lying.”

“The babies…”

are lying?

Are they?

Or is the system?

The lie is,

and always has been,

protection.

Protection that is dangled in front of us.

MAYBE

if we are soft enough,

compliant enough,

QUIET enough.

“What were you wearing?”

“Were you drinking?”

“But did you say no?”


As if protection

can be earned

Yet

we are never given

the tools to earn it.

Simply unattainable.

The protection was never for us.

No.

Never.

Not for those who need it most.

For them,

protection comes easily,

It is offered freely,

no strings attached.


It overwhelms

The rich

The powerful.

The men.

“You’re overreacting.”

“There is not enough evidence.”

“It can’t be proven.”

The proof isn’t visible to those

who refuse to see it.

But it is there.

It is always there.

With the women.

The children.

The babies.

“It’s not enough”

Not enough?

NOT

ENOUGH.

What we went through

wasn’t enough?

Our innocence stripped away

wasn’t enough?

Our testimonies-

reliving the horrors

wasn’t enough?


The flashbacks

The police reports

The interviews

The paperwork

The photos

The waiting rooms

The tears

The silence

The shame

The guilt

The depression

The anxiety

The triggers

The sleepless nights

The numbness

The therapy

The pretending

The fear

The self-blame

The telling the story

The questions without answers

The cases that disappear

Over

and over

and over

and

over.

If none of it is enough,

there will never

be

enough.


We

are not enough.

For

the rich,

the powerful,

the monsters.


References:

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024). About sexual violence. https://www.cdc.gov/sexual-violence/about/index.html

Manning, M. (2026, February 11). Questions without answers [Unpublished manuscript].



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